Love Is a Choice, Not a Cage from Denisa Luca's blog
The full extent of a man's ugliness often comes to light the moment a woman becomes dependent on him.
Because from that moment on, he no longer has anyone to perform for.
He realizes he has become "her only option." He believes she isn't going anywhere.
Why be caring if she won't leave? Why show respect if she's already trapped?
That's when his true face begins to emerge.
The ignoring starts.
The coldness begins.
Then come the words: "You're imagining things."
Power over a dependent woman can corrupt even the kindest men.
That's why you should always remember:
Have your own money.
Always have somewhere you can go and a way to support yourself.
Rely not on him, but on yourself.
You can love.
You can build a partnership.
You can choose to stay.
But only if you are capable of living without him.
Otherwise, it isn't love—it's fear.
And fear is a fragile foundation.
Remember this:
A strong relationship is built by two whole, self-sufficient people. Not by a man and a woman who has no place of her own, no direction of her own, and no financial independence.
Because if you have no way out, you are not choosing. You are surviving.
And a woman who is merely surviving beside a man is no longer living in love. She is living in need.
Duvar